This is Abuse, and This is Not Okay

This is something I experienced just moments ago.  This is something that many women deal with all the time.  Aggressive men can flip like a switch, for no apparent reason, and become real threats to your health and safety.  Even on anonymous chat websites like Omegle or ChatRoulette, you have to be extremely careful.  You have no idea what people are capable of.  I have encountered this man before and he was abusive and perverse then, but I have not seen or heard from him since, until a random encounter tonight on Omegle, but one can never be too careful.

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I Love My Body, But I Hate Myself

Self-love has been a hot topic for a few years. Several companies who market primarily at women (Dove, Victoria’s Secret) have been trying to promote diversity and “loving yourself”. Skinny women, thick women, dark skin, light skin, short, tall. Media has equated loving your body with loving yourself. Tumblr constantly tells us, “you’re beautiful as you are!” “Your flaws make your character!” “You started with a near-blank canvas, and look at you now: stretch marks, scars, tattoos–evidence that you’ve lived! Be proud!” Body image is everything. Fat isn’t a bad word, it’s an adjective. You can be fat and beautiful, which is not a statement I’m disputing. Our bodies are temples and we are to worship and protect them, no matter their shape, size, color, or markings. Love your body. There is no argument from me about the importance of this message, particularly to young people. Continue reading “I Love My Body, But I Hate Myself”